Working with the Individual

Individual Therapy or "One on One" Therapy.

Why would I come?

People come to therapy because they want help to live a better life. They want things to change but are not quite sure how to make these changes. They often express themselves as feeling quite "stuck".

I see individuals, for example, with substance abuse issues, depression, stress, anxiety, grief as not merely "events" or "problem behaviours", that need to be removed by magic words or medication, but as indicators that the way the person is living their life is unsatisfactory to them. 

"The ways we evade and deny reality often form the basis of symptoms. Beneath every symptom is an unfaced dilemma. Essentially clients come to therapy when their usual evasions and denials are not working as well as they used to and they need a new way of tackling, but feel at a loss to find one".

                                                                                                                                                                                               -    Emmy van Deurzen

You may have even been given a diagnosis of:

  • "Substance Use Disorder";
  •  Anxiety and Depression;
  • "Post Traumatic Stress Disorder " (PTSD) or childhood trauma;
  • "Borderline Personality Disorder";
  • "Feeding and Eating Disorder" and so on...

I believe people who come to therapy wish to:

  • feel relief
  • be understood and to feel that if they keep working at it they will ultimately understand themselves a bit better
  • be supported in their tentative steps into the unknown world of change for themselves;
  • feel they are not the only person to feel as they do and to be released of shame about not coping as well as they feel they ought to.
  • learn some skills to help them cope with life

People who choose to come to therapy are unlikely to know these things by simply being told they are so or by being reassured. They will need to discover all these strange and amazing things by themselves, with my help, so that they can experience and understand them. Existential therapy is a process of uncovering and discovery.

The goals of individual therapy may include identifying problems, expressing emotions in healthy ways and learning skills to improve current relationships.

What might be some of the benefits of coming to therapy?

  • Improved relationships
  • Skills for coping in healthier ways 
  • Enhanced problem-solving and communication skills
  • Ability to process grief or loss in a safe environment
  • Reduction of self-destructive or hostile behaviours
  • Discovering the fact that there is actually a possibility of a pathway existing to internal greater peace, quiet and happiness.